Often I find myself reading the really bad articles that come out of MSN Today. They fall somewhere between People Magazine and Cosmo. Out of male curiosity I read this and couldn't help but sit here slack-jawed and dumbfounded.
Really it's not about the facts and statistic, but that articles like this are even necessary. Turning sex into a game of emotional whack-a-mole (okay bad example) is really killing the idea of it. Unless your aim is to procreate and spread your genetic jam all over the place then sex should be about two things.
Are you happy, and is she happy.
If this takes less effort for a guy and 1000% more effort for a girl then we're in trouble. Eventually they're going to figure out they can just do it themselves and use artificial insemination to get the rest of the work done. Nature is seeking to reduce the man into obsolescence. I imagine there are some guys out there who are saying to themselves, "that doesn't count for me, I'm really good at it". That's a dangerous mindset to be in. Like every activity in life no matter how good you are at something there's always someone or somerobot (new word) better than you at it.
How are you going to feel when your girlfriend ditches you for titanium pecks and a penis that just won't quit!
I feel like this turned into an anti-robot post. Back on track!
This just goes back to what I was saying in an earlier post about the demands, both physical and mental of women are just way too high. I don't want to hear this crap about them being more sophisticated creatures, etc. They've been programmed by centuries of behaviour that they're entitled to certain things, and as men in order to get women we have to adhere to these ridiculous demands.
Well I say enough! Enough groveling and begging! Enough paying for dinners and apologizing for crap we didn't do! Enough feeling guilty for thoughts you're having about other girls!
As men we're programmed at the genetic level to procreate as much and as often as possible. Monogamy is flawed for humans. We're attempting to cram ourselves into places man wasn't meant to go. We choose monogamy because of two reasons: it's a sure fire way to always have a sexual partner and breaking up is hard to do. Some will argue, "what about love?" That's easy enough. You can love someone, and I mean REALLY love someone in that way that keeps you up at night until 4:00 am, sitting quietly to them next in bed hoping to hear their heartbeat or the flutter of eyelashes while they dream. You can love someone so much that flaws become features and the way the walk becomes magic. That's all fine, but don't fool yourself into thinking it's going to last forever. Nothing does. People switch from love, to tolerance and either fall out of love or just remain in that comfort zone where they don't want to leave, but aren't really happy staying. Those old couples who celebrate their 60th anniversaries are the oddities. They are the autistic savants of the love world. They're seeing stuff that as regular folk we can even imagine.
I guess you do need to be a bit "retarded" to be in love.
That's a sad view to hold John. That robots will replace me sexually?! Oh, and the bit about love.
ReplyDeleteI've known too many people who have been in love for too long for me to think love is so hard to get. I think long lasting love is real, and it is only odd that it has become so much harder to achieve in the last 2 decades. Love is not tolerance, but understanding, and that's beautiful. I think these kinds of views are really always based in personal experience; what you've been through and what you've seen. Maybe I've just seen more love around than you have... not that I'm more right. Whose to say. I guess I just strive to see the happiness more than the sadness sometimes. Sometimes you can overcome a negative without worrying about it too much, and just striving hard enough for the happy end. Trust me John, I give you happy ending.
Kudos on somerobot. Bit unsure how to pronounce it, but I bet I'll hear it when the machines take over anyway, and then I'll have it nailed.
I don't feel like it's negative, I'm just resolute in my belief that everything's fleeting. There's no point in putting that much emotional stock into something that ends.
ReplyDeleteI'm gonna have to go with Christian on this one. As far as my knowledge on the topic goes(who knows how far that is) love isn't some impossible thing. I think it seems that way because a lot of people don't realize that it's sort of a skill something that you have to be good at for it to last. It's that specific nature that makes it so damn challenging to find and maintain. You need time to get good at it but the only way to work on it is when you're in a relationship. Because of that both people need to take it seriously, acknowledge every challenge they encounter in their relationship and strive to deal with it in a constructive way and at very least, learn something from it. This is where the trouble can start because if the other person doesn't take the challenges of love seriously then it doesn't matter how hard the other person is working for the relationship, the other person is going to bring it down. I could make one of my really horrible metaphors right here where I compare love to a guild and how only a guild in which all the members are dedicated will be able to make it through challenging content, but... I went and did it anyways..
ReplyDeleteAnyways it's a topic I feel fairly strongly for, so I apologize if my little rant didn't make too much sense. It just seems like you're trying to rationalize divorcing yourself from a concept you care about but seem certain you'll never find it for yourself. I could be horribly wrong but i have a feeling that doing so would only spawn a self fulfilling prophecy for yourself.
Sorry to drop wall of text on you out of no where like this, but I care about you in a completely bro-tastically acceptable way and I hope I said something useful.
Well I'm flattered by such a well thought out response, glad I've got you thinking about this stuff!
ReplyDeleteBeen thought about by many the lucid minds over the years, decades, centuries.....etc. And likely, will be until the somerobot prevails. (and yes, pronunciation of said robot is a tad problematic!?)
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